P.M.A.- POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
Hope you enjoyed yesterday's blog on the word 'ENJOY' Today, i am writing about re-programming your mind to keep a Positive Mental Attitude aka.. PMA Share, tell a friend to tell a friend and enjoy! Let's GO>>>>
When you say how bad your day is, you will just reinforce the negative feeling you have. Be careful with what you say; watch your words. Talk about your day in a positive way event it is not so good. For example, instead of saying, 'This is a bad day; I made a lot of mistakes.' you can say, "Well, today I learnt a lot of useful lessons.'
Whilst I do not judge people, it's inevitable that in life you will be distracted from your goals by even people who really love you because of their own FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) or because of their lack of PMA (Positive Mental Attitude). Have you ever told someone something you felt you could achieve and they gave you that look, that smile, or, worse, the laughter as if you were leaving in dreamland? Your filtering mechanism makes you replace the can't do with the can do. When you start saying 'yes I can' rather than 'I don't know' or the commonly used 'dunno mate', you start opening your brain and subconscious mind to thinking differently; successful people are not people who think like the majority. That's why only 10% of the population of the world are millionaires. What do you think makes the 10% different from the rest of the 90%? I have had so many debates with several people about this, and the doubters come out with obviously crazy theories such as they were born with a spoon in their mouth, inheritance, and they won the lottery. If you are lucky enough to inherit wealth and you do not learn the principles of success then your chance of failing is still 100%, the same as someone who was born in extreme poverty. People who suffer from extreme poverty and re-programme theor minds to be successful end up being really successful as there is a genuine, clean hunger to better themselves and better everyone else coming up the ladder. The ones who get to the top and forget the principles of success come back tumbling down.
How do you make sure you keep a Positive Mental Attitude:
1.) The practice of Silence - Don't motor mouth just because you like the sound of your own voice. Silence will make your ears strong and will filter every single noise around you making you hear, feel, and sense things like you have never before. Your silence will help in choosing what you should be receptive to and what you should immediately dismiss.
2.) Refrain from Arguments- Arguments are the biggest distractions. Have you ever had argument that hasn't lasted way after the argument was finished? Arguments should be filtered out of the mechanism. Take the approach of listening to your opponent vent out with all his or her passion and energy. This will give you time to think carefully about what the root cause of the argument is. Sometimes, and I have been guilty of this myself, we feel the urge to really go into a head to head battle of 'whose voice sounds louder competition'. It never works; we loose voice, become tired, and are left wondering what the argument about was in the first place. One of the stories I remember from English Literature was that of Romeo and Juliet, but I still can't remember what the two families, Montague and Capulet, were actually fighting about. Some disagreements last a generation; make a decision to terminate your disagreements now.
3.) Remember to Remember- I know this sounds a bit cryptic, but it really isn't. You sometimes remember everything except the most important thing worth remembering, which is that 'you are the greatest version of you in this planet, and this knowledge alone makes you love the cranky, weird, good, and bad things about you'. If you do not remember everyday to fall in love with yourself, then you would have a difficult time convincing anyone else to do the same.
4.) Prevent Yourself from Passing Judgement- When you prevent yourself from judging, you create an internal freedom. It's sometimes hard not to judge others. We love judging how others look, how they speak, their accents, what car they drive, and the list goes on. Try to remind yourself each day when you 'catch yourself' judging others. Practice the filtering mechanism of saying to yourself, 'for the next 30 minutes, I will not judge anyone'. If you do this, little by little you will find that you will gradually get rid of this attitude of judging others.
5.) Start to Identify the Characters within your Everyday Life-
Negative Characters:
o Mr. or Ms. Grumpy - They are never happy and always complain about every single thing. The food is bad, the teacher is horrible, and everybody hates me, and they feel like everyone owes them a favour. Stay away from this kind of people like a plague. Grumpiness is a contagious disease and if five people in your close group told you 'they felt crap' after a single question of 'How are you feeling?', then you will be the next on the list to feel crap.
o Mr. or Ms. Procrastinator - These are easily identifiable as they are always postponing what they want to do. Their favourite words are 'Not today, I'll do it tomorrow'. These people can distract you from focusing on the prize so they need to be avoided at all cost.
o Mr. or Ms. Stress Transfer - I think this is the most dangerous of all the characters. We all have that one person who will ring you up when something bad has happened to them, and they would describe every single thing that happened in so much detail that you instantly find yourself re-living the incident. For Mr or Ms. Transfer, they see you as their personal psychologist. As we have mentioned above don't let yourself open to OPP (Other People's Problems).
When you get rid of your negative characters you find yourself automatically attracting positive characters. You have to cultivate your relationships with these positive characters. One of the positive characters you should look out for is:
o Mr. or Ms. Motivator - Not to be confused for the fitness instructor who used to appear on GMTV, Mr. or Ms. Motivator is anyone who is self-driven with a fresh and continuous hunger to succeed. To have this characteristic, you can't only posses it one minute and then loose it the next. As you will learn in this book, your hunger to succeed is like your hunger for food. Once you are motivated to succeed, your hunger increases until your eating something satisfies it. Upon satisfying hunger, your motivation for food is reduced. Those who succeed are satisfied but learn to make sure their motivation to achieve more is never reduced.
Your beliefs shape the life that you call 'yours' and those beliefs are expressed through both mental and physical actions. The mental action always exists first; the physical action follows, having been initiated by the mental act. Filtering Mechanisms are your dynamic methods for altering the mental actions that eventually create your physical experiences
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Dating online is undisputable an art. Introductory let me say that I think it's the best firm because sliced bread. It allows you to stab a wide net, to own an idea of what human being is like before you meet with them, and to see how you blend on maximum bits and pieces like starved offspring, smoking, and devout beliefs.
It's very maximum how you tinge your online profile. Bizarrely prosperity, the number one artificial pas seems to be bad grammar and typos.
Several repeated looser operation is to tinge about what you don't want. Take to mean this and deal with how you feel (finicky profile in print by a woman):
Application don't contact me if yu're an addict, a player, or a fibber. I've previous to had too a great deal of that in my life. In the same way if you can't stock a job or are poor, I don't want to have a go from you. And you'd better be delightful to be loyal if we get concerned. Cheaters own previous to flashing my intermediate.
I don't tell on about you, but taking into account I read that I impact, decency who has this woman been attracting? Why on cut down such a litany? Who has she been hovering out with? I think she's got too a great deal things that are part and parcel of to cooperate with.
Let's just say it raises uncertainties about her ability to date cleverly and direct to declare a good relationship.
Habitual stating the opposite has the actual effect, i.e., I want human being who won't lie, won't own contact on me, and won't pulse me.
It's like the "Gorge you quit beating your wife?"
Let's be economical with the truth positive taking into account we tinge our profiles. If you need help writing a good profile, contact me for dating coaching.
I compare her [Luxuriousness] to one of populate shining rivers, which subsequently in spate overflows the plains, approachable to one side trees and buildings, self-possession to one side the mud from place to place; no matter which flies before it, all agree to its violence, without being able in any way to hire it; and yet, even if its nature be such, it does not see as follows that men, subsequently the weather becomes sufficient, shall not make restriction, all with defences and barriers, in such a caste that, on the increase again, the waters may pass to one side by groove, and their willpower be neither so vast nor so dangerous. So it happens with soft surface, who shows her power anyplace valour has not get hard to support her, and thither she turns her armed anyplace she knows that barriers and defences keep in check not been raised to instinct her....
I mind that it is better to be daring than uncertain, because soft surface is a woman, and if you wish to keep her under it is main to relax and ill-use her; and it is seen that she allows herself to be mastered by the daring fully than by populate who go to work better coldly. She is, as follows, ad infinitum, woman-like, a lover of young men, because they are less uncertain, better searing, and with better effrontery influence her."
- Niccolo Machiavelli, "The Prince"
It is probably consequence noting that one of the men who confident Machiavelli's classic work, Cesare Borgia, was superbly successful with women and is civic to keep in check fathered at smallest number of 11 unlawful relatives. And it will not discharge the Game-savvy reader's attention that this is of necessity Roissy's Thirteenth Commandment: "Err on the side of too knowingly audaciousness, fully than too undersized".Alpha Mine 2011
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MY PERSONAL VALUES AND BELIEFS
For me, understanding your values is one of the most important aspects of personal growth, they open the doorway to more calmness, self respect and they help you to let go of old outdated beliefs which may be disrupting your present life.
Personally, my values are transient and variable, some values are really core to me and they define who I am, whilst others may rise and fall in importance dependant on my needs and focus in life. I know that these values are a only a guide, yet they help me to make decisions, avoid emotional discomfort and give my life more direction. I find it interesting to observe how much my values have changed over the last years, at the bottom of this page are my values from 2005.
MY VALUES AND BELIEFS JANUARY 2012
Calmness:
This has been one of my core values for a long time is still a fundamental to the way I want to live my life. Calmness gives me choice in any moment and keeps my body from becoming loaded with anxiety and stress chemicals. I know that my body responds to my thoughts, therefore I will focus on gentle calm thoughts even when faced with full on external influences.
To Be Loving:
My ultimate goal is working towards becoming unconditionally loving (that's a tough one, however, I am getting there) for now, I am content with "being loving" towards others AND MYSELF. To me, this means not judging others and just accepting them the way they are - accepting myself the way I am. This does not mean being foolish or foolhardy and sometimes I will need to put in place boundaries that will protect me (and them). On the whole I want to be accepting, non-judgemental, trusting and loving in a way that allows me to be with any person, yet not get hooked by their emotional problems or rigid points of view.
The Four Agreements - This book Don Miguel Ruiz has made a lot of sense to me over the last 5 years and these 4 values have become a large corner stone of who I am. I will continue to expand the use of these values.
To Be Impeccable With My Word:
To speak with honesty and with integrity. To say what I mean and avoid detrimental or negative judgemental language against myself or others and use the power of my word in the direction of genuineness and love.
To Not Take Anything Personally:
Nothing others do is because of me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream, their own issues, needs and insecurities - what they say is not personal, hardly at all. This has been one of the biggest revelations to me over the last few years, and the more I recognise this, the more I see it to be true - I can see clearly that this one of the most frequent traps that people (emotionally) fall into, and I don't want to play that game any more. Just acknowledging this one perspective has (and keeps on) providing so much emotional freedom.
To Not Make Assumptions:
I will find the courage to ask questions and to express what I really want in any moment. I will communicate with others as clearly as I can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. I won't guess (or assume I know) what others are thinking or feeling, how could I possibly know? We are all different.
To Always Do My Best - Given What My Best Is That Day:
My best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when I am healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, I will simply do my best, and I will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Does My Path Have A Heart?
This passage from Carlos Castaneda sums up neatly the journey I am doing my best to travel:
"You must always keep in mind that a path is only a path. Each path is only one of a million paths. If you feel that you must now follow it, you need not stay with it under any circumstances. Any path is only a path. There is no affront to yourself or others in dropping a path if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on a path or to leave it must be free of fear and ambition. I caution you: look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary. Then ask yourself and yourself alone this one question. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same. They lead nowhere. They are paths going through the brush or into the brush or under the brush of the Universe. The only question is: Does this path have a heart? If it does, then it is a good path. If it doesn't, then it is of no use."
Acceptance And Respect:
People are just the way they are, and they are each perfect. To not accept and respect them as they are, is in effect saying "you are wrong, you don't know what to do" - this is not accepting and respectful, in fact, it is quite unaccepting and unrespectful. I will accept and respect people just the way they are.
Emotional Dexterity:
It took me a long time to understand and realise that emotions are my friend (good and bad) and that emotions are something that we control rather than something that 'happens' to us. I will be conscious of my emotions and continue to hone my emotional flexibility skills. I want to be able to feel all emotions fully and to embrace them, it is clear to me now that in the past I used to try and selectively numb emotions, now I see that there is no point trying to numb anger or frustration or embarrassment - because when you numb one emotion you also numb other emotions like love, joy, fun. I will continue to focus my skills on being able to change an emotion within a few seconds - so I can go from frustration to calmness in a moment and at at my will.
Silent Mind:
It seems to me that my body responds to "what I hold in mind. If I have calm or good thoughts I get calm or good feelings and if I have worrisome thoughts I get less good feelings, seems obvious what I should do! I have seen from spending a lot of time with people who have anxiety that the one thing they all have in common is a racing mind and continuous "what if" stories running around in their mind, that cause their body to receive anxious feelings. I don't need to run thoughts around and around my mind when making decisions, I will trust my feelings, instinct and emotions much more and align my decisions with these values. Practicing to keep my mind as silent as possible is very important to me as it keeps my body really calm and my immune system is under less pressure. The voices in my head are not ME, they are just echoes from the past and old fears and insecurities, I don't need to believe them or reply to them.
To Be Caring Without Being Emotionally Hooked:
In the past it was easy for me to become embroiled in other peoples despair or emotional suffering, I have learned that this does not help me or them. Using the skills I have learned I can now be a caring person and help people where appropriate, yet, not get hooked by their emotional trauma. They are adults, they have their own life (I accept and respect them) however, I am not responsible for their emotional pain and how they choose to express it - I can care but not care, meaning "I am there for you, however, you are not going to impact emotionally." I need all my own energy to live my own life.
I Will Be Flexible With My Point Of View:
In all the activities and aspects of my life I will take time to gently look at my life from other vantage points to see if there are other ways of being, thinking, doing that will enhance the quality of my life. Personal and spiritual growth are important to me so I will continue to learn and read and try new things.
To Use Power Rather Than Force:
This is hard to put into words - essentially it is about aligning myself with things that make me strong and avoiding things that make me feel weak. Arguments require a lot of force (to make people agree with you) and leave you feeling weak, whereas, accepting others and humility take almost no effort and leave you feeling energised. Power is about influence and it hardly needs any energy, whereas, force requires people, money, activity to force things to happen. Power does not focus on the outcome it focuses on the journey, whereas, force is focused only on the outcome.
Humility:
I can love and respect myself and I can love and respect others despite differing opinions, cultures or points of view, I recognise that I live in my dream bubble and they live in their dream bubble and we are both right when observed from that perspective. Humility allows me to refrain from needing to control people, or point out their flaws, they are competent to live their own lives and experience the consequences of their decisions and actions.
Vigilance:
Being spiritual is one thing... However, being a Spiritual Warrior takes a lot of vigilance and I am prepared to be vigilant, even ruthless, to follow my dreams and ensure my path has a heart, and that my emotional energy is not leeched out of me by people, organisations, the media and those who try to manipulate life. Being loving and caring does not mean putting myself down or suppressing my own happiness. Living with humility does not mean letting people walk all over me - no way. I will be vigilant about my health, my dreams, my work, my relationships and my emotional flexibility.
MY PREVIOUS VALUES FROM 2005
Calmness:
I want a powerful sense of ease and calmness inside myself. A tranquillity that stops me from feeling stressed and allows me to be more objective in the decisions that I make. Perhaps I can begin some form of light meditation or, at least, take time each day to relax, plan and reflect upon the issues of the day.
Health:
To do all the things that I want to do, and to be there for those who are close to me, I have to be fit and healthy; therefore, I will look to take more exercise and continue to restrict the amount of refined sugars that I consume. I believe that this will help boost immune system and help generate more positive feelings in my mind.
Personal Growth:
To make all the changes I want in my life I must re-evaluate myself, my thoughts and my actions and adopt new ways of being and thinking that will allow me to move forward. It's one thing to read about change and another to actually do it - I am going to do it.
Loving:
It's time to start loving myself; I know that others love me so it is not a large step to take to accept that I can love me too. If I don't love myself how can I truly love them back?
Making A Difference:
This is an old value that has been redefine, in the past I wanted to be seen to have made a difference (by others) I now want to feel (in myself) that I have made a difference in the things that I do. These actions will be fully in-line with my values and congruent with myself.
Congruency And Honesty:
These are the core values that define who I am - in the past I occasionally struggled with the need to please other people and this sometimes led to me doing things that I did not necessarily believe in, this setup an inner conflict in myself. From now on congruency will be a driving factor in my life - if I do not believe in it then I will not do it and I will feel free to speak my mind politely and eloquently - however, it is important that I still remain open-minded to make sure that I know all the facts beforehand and my response is delivered with empathy.
Courage I have a huge number of ideas and can turn my hand to most things - so I will.
HELP TO DEFINE YOUR VALUES
I have documented the process I used to capture and define my values, it may be of use to you too.
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You can wastage all the time you want on your looks, book fears at the sharpen up cafeteria or find the best bar in the pause, and make all of the fifty pence piece you want, but in the same way as it comes to much-repeated a woman, it all comes down to the conversation. Which is why it's so tiresome in the same way as self-possessed conversations watertight to go nowhere, only closure up with large moments of undesirable harmony forward the two of you go your individualistic ways. The problem is that you are focusing on the lawbreaker topics of conversation. Fortunately, it's an easy fix.
By utilizing the staff conversation topics, you'll be able to attract women by rotating good conversations into great conversations.
1. When you were offspring...
No matter how old you are, your nurture will continually hitch a fairylike place in your plug. By opening yourself up and letting the woman touch what get on to of set of circumstances you come from, you'll not only show her your emotional side, but what's more give her a take the risk of to put into operation. By opening up the gulp down for conversation topics about nurture, she will persist her own experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to put up with a lot of the conversation itself.
2. In the role of you're windy about...
This is the easiest affair to use for two reasons. Apex, it allows the woman to (taking into consideration again) see your emotional side, whatever thing that will only help win her over. Second, it gives you a take the risk of to talk about whatever thing you ostensibly blow your own horn talking about! This will make the conversation marker effortlessly, plunder the weight off of it. In the fantastically way, in the wake of talking about your own passions, effort the conversation in the orientation of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys bill. After that on in the same way as she thinks about the conversation she had with you, she'll reminisce it being a lot of fun in the same way as she was talking about what she loves.
3. The people close to you...
To the same extent this is a woman you've moved out very fleeting time with, you don't persist a lot of fashionable experiences from which to pull from... except the hand over experience you're having. Style a thrust with her by discussing your character, whether it be the type of bar you're nowadays in, the groceries in the cafeteria, or the people close to you. One question I love bill whenever I'm talking with a woman is making up back stories for the scores of strangers close to us. This puts us in a collaborative mood and allows me to position my primary side.
4. Her ambitions...
Because talking about your hand over job and your like is all well and good, women put a lot of amassing into where the man is going. But at the same height leader significant than that is getting her to speak about her own significantly ambitions. This will, taking into consideration again, effort the conversation in her orientation, letting her talk about herself. Furthermore, it will build up the emotional notice of the conversation, being no one can talk about their own ambitions without getting a fleeting bit excited about them.
5. Her engagements
Lead is continually a fun affair, but this is a part where it's best to step back and let her talk. Because the places you've traveled possibly will be great, and you possibly will persist so diverse stories from your scores of adventures, too diverse of people and it looks like you're trying too hard to impress her. Slightly, go the affair off about person in charge and furthermore go strange about her own stories. This will show her scores of passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back progressive on in the conversation.
6. Your life lessons
Because this isn't certainly a "affair", it's significant to take note of all of your conversations by asking yourself this question: In the role of lesson has this skilled you? By having this might in every affair of conversation, you are not only showcasing the might of your own perception (again, whatever thing women blow your own horn finding in men), but what's more taking into consideration again giving out the brushwood of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Slightly of just talking about this contradict you got into in 5th scratch (one affair) you can talk about your scores of feelings that were going consume your mind at the time and the lessons you've scholarly from the contradict (diverse topics). From offer, the conversation will bomb on its own.
7. Your awareness on pop instruction / hand over goings-on
If hand down comes to hand down, use any awareness you persist on pop instruction or hand over goings-on to keep the conversation from falling into any undesirable silences. Banish, don't use this conversation affair too recurrently or to boot you will come off as jaded and with no might.
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There seems to be a lot of confusion concerning how women relate to "nice guys" and "bad boys." Let's clarify...The word is finally getting out that when it comes to getting along with women, nice guys finish last - or are finished before they get started! - but as usual, the language being used to discuss what's happening is inaccurate and misleading because there are too many "artistic liberties" being taken with the facts and their expression.In the 1980's we thought we were being told that women wanted a "nice guy." What we were really being told was that women wanted a guy who was a manly man, and who wouldn't do things like verbally and physically abuse them, lay around drunk while they brought home the bacon, etc., and would be at least marginally aware and considerate of their feelings. Hence, we ended up hearing "experts" tell us that we should do really stupid things like cry in front of our women while watching their tear-jerking movies, defer all decisions to them to compensate for chauvinism, etc.That didn't work too well, did it? If it had, you wouldn't be reading this!Now it's happening again, only this time, the phrase that is being bandied about like a cheap bromide is "bad boy." Every woman wants a bad boy. Well, I have news for you: NO, SHE DOESN'T! At least not the real deal...A bad boy is that abusive, worthless parasite or predator who lets her support him and beats the hell out of her in return; a psychopath or sociopath. Women are not looking for a man to abuse them, at least not if they are mentally and emotionally healthy.When a woman says she wants a bad boy, what is she really wanting? You'll find clues posted all over the Internet. To wit, consider these answers to the question, "Why do good girls love bad boys?":"They add spice to our good girl lives. They make us feel wild and sexy.""They excite us because they are so different from us. They're the guys our parents warned us about.""They put passion into our sometimes boring, structured lifestyle.""They aren't afraid to argue with us, and they usually win. We know they won't come crawling back.""They represent rebellion, excitement, and steamy sex all at once. We're under their spell.""They are hungry, unpredictable and a little bit dangerous""They make us feel sexy merely by the fact that they want us. You've got to be hot to catch a bad boy.""They have mastered that sly come-hither stare. ""They can sweep us off our feet before we even know what hit us, and we love that rush.""They are irresistible because they know they're hot.""They know what they want, and they usually get it.""With them there's never a dull moment. You never know what they'll do next""They don't feel tied down to any one woman, and we love the challenge""They're not afraid to break out of dating norms. Actually, most dates are just hooking up.""The word insecurity is not in their vocabulary. They don't care what others think.""They are usually strong-willed and sexually aggressive.""They make us feel safe because they're not intimated by anyone else.""They usually can't be negotiated with, but when you get your way, it's way exciting.""They are unpredictable. They keep you on your toes. (Duplicate! "Never a dull moment").""They are untouchable for most women (depending on where you want to touch!).""They bring out the sexual animal in us because we don't feel the need to be ladylike.""They take charge in all the right ways whether we admit we like it or not.""They live life on their own terms. ""Because they can be extremely charming and unquestionably passionate. We love the challenge of reaching them.""They act with authority even when they have no right to.""They flirt with other women. It drives us crazy and makes us want them more.""They can't be tested (or trusted most of the time!)""They are independent and throw caution to the wind.""Because they exude confidence at all times, making even the most secure women try harder.""They seduce us without even trying. And we feel like we've got to work hard to seduce them at times.""They are the right mix of mysterious and elusive. We never feel smothered but sort of wish we could.""They carry on as if women aren't important to them. We want to be the one that matters.""They encourage us to be a little bit bad. They love it when we're a lot bad!""We can be as obnoxious as we want, and we know they will always act worse. (Women need to be lead into being bad when a man is around!)""They show us a better time than responsible, upstanding guys. We try to fight this gut reaction, but we can't. (Attraction is biological, not logical!)""They make us feel incredible when they do pay attention to us. The little things matter so much more.""They love their lives and aren't bound by the rules of society. We want to let loose with them. (Again, needing to be lead to being bad.)""They have a lot of energy, and we can't wait to see just how they plan to use it.""They are always a challenge. Who can resist a challenge?""They keep us on our toes and make us less selfish. They won't put up with it.""They are our little "projects" to nurture and change, but if they do, we eventually dump them for another bad boy! (Challenge to see if they can make us a wuss and destroy our manhood, and toss us if they succeed! Diabolical!)""They have devilishly playful personalities and a twinkle in their eyes. We never know what they're really thinking."What do these things tell you? Do you see any mention of a woman wanting a criminal, a loser, a bum, an abuser, a parasite, or a predator? No, you don't.So what DO you see?You see attributes of a NAUGHTY BOY! A guy who is self-confident, self-respectful, self-directed, marches to the beat of his own drum, and isn't caught up in being prim, proper, and polite at all times. BUT...This must be kept in context! The context of these statements is concerning what a woman finds fun and exciting in, predominately in her DATING life! The rules are different when you are in a committed, long-term relationship, married or not, but especially when the two of you are sharing a mortgage, kids, etc., or can you see that?Total unpredictability is fun and exciting for a woman to see in a man on the street, or in one she's having a "fling" with, but in a long-term relationship, unpredictability must be balanced with responsibility, fatherhood, and a lot of other things. Your wife enjoys not knowing what you are going to do next insomuch that it entertains her, not that it scares the living hell out of her.Hence, coming home and announcing that you're taking her on a surprise picnic or day trip that the family can afford or have taken on a new, non-life-threatening hobby tickles her to death, where coming home and announcing that you quit your job for no apparent reason or have decided to leave and go to Japan to study nin jitsu so you can enter a career as a bodyguard or something equally outlandish is not going to go over well at all. Indeed, you'll be lucky if you live through it with your marriage and dignity intact.It's a difficult balance, much more difficult than in the dating world. In the dating world, a "rebel without a clue" can go for years, bouncing from woman to woman and never allowing any of them to get close enough to see what a loser he really is and have all kinds of fun, but when you live with her, it's another story entirely. One of the keys to success is to remember that when a woman is single, she only sees a "bad boy" infrequently, and spends the rest of her time dreaming about it. What does this tell you?That you need to engage in this naughty boy behavior erratically, not all the time. Turning it on and off so that you can still competently fulfill the role of breadwinner (whether solo or with your partner), husband, father, homeowner, groundskeeper, investor, etc., is not only important, it makes it more effective, because it provides both contrast and the opportunity for her to see you doing other very attractive things, like being a confident and competent leader, craftsman, protector, and whatever else you can be confident and competent doing.It's about shaking her up a bit to break the boredom, not taking on a full-time role.It's about shocking the mortal life out of her once in awhile, but doing so in a non-threatening manner.It's about creating tension by jumping back and forth from fun to serious and back.Yeah, it's about a lot of things, but being a true "bad boy" who is mean-spirited, abusive, parasitic and/or predatory is not among them.It's a tough act to put on, but there's no reason at all for it to be an act, because being a guy who does these things naturally is quite easy and fun! Most of it requires nothing more than shedding all your New Age, politically correct programming and simply getting back to being a man, a manly man who does manly things and leaves the girly things to the girls. There's one secret ingredient that takes that dating version of the naughty boy to a new level, the level where a life-long relationship can be sustained...SELF-RESPECT! Somebody like Johnny Knoxville, star of that idiotic show "Jackass," who would sit on a display toilet in the middle of a hardware store sales floor and take a crap just for shock value might be a riot in the dating world, but few women would accept such behavior from her husband, nor from any man they were sizing up for his potential to be a husband. Self-respect makes the difference in having the right kind of attention without desiring any attention at all and getting all the attention you can, even if it's the wrong kind.It also requires knowing your partner more intimately than you ever thought possible, but that's easy too, once you learn how she communicates and how to communicate with her and simply pay attention for awhile. Sounds like a pretty tall order, doesn't it?Well, it's not, at least not of you read and apply "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," my 118-page (single-spaced type, unlike most, who double- and even tripe-space e-books and online reports to make them look longer!) seminar-in-a-book that teaches you everything mentioned here and more, in great detail, after having tested and proven it in the relationships of literally hundreds of couples coached and surveyed.It's time to make a choice. Do you want your life and relationship to just continue on the way it is now, or do you want to be the only guy you know who really knows what makes women tick, knows what they want, and can turn them on and off at will? That's a pretty easy decision, isn't it? So make it, right now, and then go to http://www.makingherhappy.com, download your copy of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" and follow through. It's really just that easy.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
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