By: John Roberts
Christopher Shears Alfa Choice, jumped off the Tappan Zee Bridge
Sometime pity gets in the way of justice.
A Bronx, New York man that pushed his girlfriend from the Tappan Zee Bridge, in a joint suicide attempt a year ago will not get any jail time after being convicted of murder in the death of his lover, said the authorities.
Christopher Shears, 45, pleaded guilty in Westchester County Court in White Plains to second-degree manslaughter, which carries a maximum sentence of five to 15 years in prison.
Shears and Alfa Choice, 29, jumped together, naked, from the highest point of the bridge on July 12, 2011. Choice, a former graduate at Cornell University and professor at the School of Science in the Bronx, was killed.
The couple actually jumped twice because they first landed on a walkway for the construction of the bridge 6 feet below that they have not seen, authorities said. Then they jumped off the walkway, and the two fell 200 feet into the Hudson River.
"This is a very, very sad, tragic situation," said the attorney for Shears, Robin Bauer. "My client was
about to die, was in intensive care unit for three weeks, then was hospitalized psychiatrically for a long time."
"He continues to undergo intensive psychiatric treatment," said Bauer.
He said he asked prosecutors to drop charges, given his precarious mental state. He ended up pleading guilty in a section of law that involves assisting a suicide.
Shears will get probation when he is sentenced, said Tracy Everson, a spokeswoman for the Office of the Westchester County District Attorney.
The nice trade about being married is that any apology to get out of the area and do something together can be deliberate a date. My companion knows that I am not a romantic, so she has very low ethics for a good time out. Her low hope acknowledge been a together with for me. We acknowledge had two great date nights in the bearing in mind few weeks, as a couple weeks ago, we went to the Ocher Depression. This bearing in mind weekend, I took it to a environmental new level, by prize my wrestling nerdery to a environmental new level, and prize my companion for a night out at a WWE NXT area show.
The do took place at the Lakeland Fund, and since I walked in, I had miscellaneous emotions. I was pumped, having the status of current were only about 150 seats, so I knew my GA seats would be in the third row. I was a diminutive distraught, having the status of the frontier was so low that I knew current was not going to be any high carried by the wind military exercises that night. Considerably, current was no alcohol served, so I important to experience again my high focus go and clout some Pile Dews as soon as thought wrestling. I am a teenager.
We got current about a partial hour to the front the show, which was right in time for the pre-show notice signing with NXT superstars Jason Jordan and Mason Ryan. But next they announced a limited guest sensation with Billy Gunn. Catastrophically, I forgot my Ass Man top at home, and for instance I was not qualified to get that signed, I critically didn't care about getting autographs.
With, I saw him. A real-life WWE (WCW, if you want to get bureaucratic) Fame. One of my wrestling heroes. A man that has motivated my primary West Seaside Bound moves. That's right, it was Screamin' Norman Smiley.
He was crossways the friendship from me, so I made the chief to organize as inevitable he would work his way in relation to nearer, so I possibly will thank the man for all of his corporation on me. This was a precipitous misfortune on my part, as he only popped out from in the manner of the mask for that single not much, and I never saw him again the rest of the night. I'm still mad at myself, having the status of Norman Smiley is the best.
Never forget.
Considerably, back to the NXT show. I'll injudiciously break it down, match by match.
Devin Taylor introduced Ill-treat Randall as our horde. He seemed pictographic good on the microphone, but that may acknowledge been just having the status of he was closely Devin Taylor, so the bar was not punctiliously set high. Considerably, he's a stereotypical cocky jerk, so I'll be nosy to see his character on examine.
The first match of the night was Aiden English vs. Colin Cassady. It wasn't a critically great match and probably my second gofer of the night. They worked well with each remote, and it's just critically fun to spell S-A-W-F-T SAAAAAAAAAWFT.
The bearing in mind match was Sylvester LeFort and Marcus Louis vs. Mason Ryan and Jason Jordan who are category up, having the status of they are muscular and their first names' song. In advance the match started, I told my companion to organize for the USA chants, having the status of they were coming, despite Mason Ryan being Welsh. Participation three seconds once, Jason Jordan started the chants. I victoriously chanted nominated, having the status of America. Considerably, LeFort and Louis had a pictographic funny spell trade they were accomplishment that I couldn't totally make out the words, but I acknowledge a feeling I will be seeing it shortly on NXT.
Just the once that, it was Baron Corbin vs. CJ Parker, and I felt bad for both guys. I don't like CJ Parker, but shit, everybody extremely hates CJ Parker, and it is just a steady control of people yelling at him about how badly he sucks. Current were 7-year-old kids yelling at him about how to a great extent he sucks. This is a problem with NXT shows, having the status of it is full of Smarks. Fans who love the bad guys and be repulsed by the good guys. I fall into this group, but I still try to cheerfulness good guys and boo the bad guys, having the status of that's the reply that will truly help the wrestlers. I don't critically need remote wrestling fans to think I'm nippy, but good for the people who need that sort of affirmation. His hippy gimmick does not make sway, and my companion brought up a critically good point that his bright white go-go boots don't rather fit the hippy routine. He want probably get some birkenstocks. Considerably, I in addition to felt bad for Corbin, having the status of he tried to be a heel, but Hitler would acknowledge trouble getting pastry-cook since facing CJ Parker. I just felt bad for somebody involved.
Just the once that, current was an sensation from Pleasing T, who right tried to become a heel again. With Leo Kruger came out with his new gimmick, Adam Rose, and he now has a fat superintendent named Humphrey. They love to dance, but his umlaut makes it fair like Donce, and I acknowledge been chanting donce ever for instance. It's since to shoulder down my companion. Offensively, this was the best match of the night, as they went back and forth and put on a critically fun match for the friendship. I'm now a precipitous Adam Rose fan and despite the nippy fans for ever and a day chanting Leo Kruger, I think this gimmick has way bonus opportunity to get him on the prevalent roster. With, brightly Broadus and Pleasing T become heels, having the status of they need something to transpose it up.
Just the once stop, they kicked it off with a Divas match with some redhead named Becky Drape against Bayley. It was a diminutive unfaltering, but it was fine. Bayley was righteous a fan gofer despite my companion recitation her as "softball girly looking."
With it was Corey Graves vs. Troy McClane (I didn't alight the guy's give name, but that was the only Troy I develop on the roster). Current was an same strong fan who would not stop yelling. Corey Graves fairly told her that code wanted to get entangled her, and became an transcribe fan gofer, having the status of that lady was religiously the best. Troy was going scheduled his industrial drumming, but the lady would not sultry up, so I couldn't get entangled partial of it. Since Corey Graves talked rubbish to that lady, he became my wife's gofer fighter of the night. Utmost people either critically like or critically be repulsed by him, but I'm exemplary of blah on him. He's nicely fine.
Decisively, it was the prevalent do surrounded by Adrian Neville and Bo Dallas. Bo seemed to receiver in this match, and with the low ceilings, current wasn't to a great extent that Neville possibly will critically do. He did some flippy stuff, and Bo Dallas put on some suitably offense, but they had a cheap pin from Dallas end the match, and it was a pictographic anticlimactic go bust to the night.
Whole, it was a fun night. Current was some great wrestling, and for 10, it's critically biting to walking stick that see. I was distraught that Tyler Expulsion was not current, and I didn't critically irregular Sami Zayn to be current, so that wasn't to a great extent of a raise up. Lazy, current were a lot of good wrestlers, and fixed my companion had a good time.
But bearing in mind time I am righteous getting that suppose with Norman Smiley.
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What? Me? Fabrication dating mistakes? In the same way as about HIM? He's a hot mess!
Upright familiar? A passing all too familiar. And I grab you, been dowry too.
But here's the veracity about dating.
Hand over are two sides to every pancake ladies, and so if your relationship is less than accurate, that isn't going to change until you argue a look at your role in it. Until you be au fait with that you are measure point-blank no matter which in your power to make it the best dating life ever, after that you play a role in the problems as well.
Now, that being understood, measure no matter which in your power to work on your relationship...happening exonerate, is the necessary takeaway from that first rumination, but I will get to that. Currently our dating advice is going to transform around what you can do to change your relationship, or change your dating experience. We dissipate so to a great extent time wondering what HE'S measure, what HE may perhaps do better, what HE may perhaps change to make us happier, we dissipate far less time wondering what WE may perhaps do.
Each time was the rostrum time that you asked yourself, "How can I make my dating life better?"
Each time you acknowledge that you supply the standardize in your dating life, after that your relationships intuitively change for the better. But dowry is a very big difference among controlling your life, and controlling your men to the point that the words "intruder" and "preventive order" pilot sprouting into conversation. But sometimes women supply a problem with that. I show again, dowry is a very big difference among being in standardize of your Vitality, and being in standardize of your man.
On that note, let's get right to it. Present-day are the top three dating mistakes that you are making right now, that you can more to the point stop...right now. Let's get to it.
1. EXPECTING TOO Radically. Now, this is a let slip that we all supply made at one point in our dating world. But this let slip manifests itself in a number of different ways. From, visualizing yourself walking down the alley with him following you are on your first date together, to, over reacting following he went out with the guys so he didn't copy you his appointments every 20 account. These are just examples. Here's changed one. "Cessation Michelle, my boyfriend has been out of work for nearing 2 living now and I be au fait with he is going to list. How do I tell him I don't want anything less than a 10 thousand challenge ring?"
Beforehand I fiddle that question, let me preface my reply by saying this is not an truthful reader's question, but I supply heard this question from outfit in my own life seeking my relationship advice very really. My fiddle was, "You don't. Unless you want him to break up with you."
This is just one high-class example of expecting too to a great extent. Each time did we become such an entitled society that we vacate all of the work up to the poor men of the world? They don't owe us anything ladies. All they need to do is keep their promises. I show again, all they owe us is unfriendly promises. And, if they haven't made folks promises, unexciting the act of expecting them to make them at some point in our dating life is asking too to a great extent of them.
Here's the feature. If he wants to list, or call following he says he will, or date you following he says he will, or argue fabric to the at that time level, he will. But he won't if he suspects that you presume this. Relationships only work following they work as expected, and expecting too to a great extent too at full tilt is going to vacate you discontented. Not only that, but you won't unexciting be able to money him, so these forthcoming are all made by.....you.
Now, if he doesn't call following he says he will, or doesn't keep folks promises, that's a dating let slip that he is making. But this does not mean that you supply the right to go postal on him. Which brings us to let slip number two.
2. NEEDING HIM TOO Radically. Let's pass off for the sake of this tackle that you supply never heard, in a conjure up or earlier, the word, "You definite me." You be au fait with, and I may supply unexciting mentioned this in the neighborhood prematurely, but I gotta say it again. I terribly annoy that word following it comes to love so it has lead to so countless problems for so countless women and for so countless reasons. How can you presume outfit to fall in love with ALL of you following you are eager they become a part of ALL of you. The point with this one is that it force right into that grade of placing too countless forthcoming on him. Now you presume him to definite you? Really? No wonder he's running! Who wants that pressure?
Be successful to him with ALL of you earlier in place. Or at nominal, as to a great extent as you can reasonably muster. Needing him to rinse in and definite parts of you, that's just not going to work and going to vacate you very frustrated following he can't pile folks fearless shoes.
"Oh, that's not me. Skip to number 3 gist, that doesn't carry out at all!"
Really? Plague you texted him or emailed him in the rostrum 24 hour stretch, Bright so that you may perhaps grab back from him? Bright so that you may perhaps get some small self-reliance that he still is thinking of you, good-natured for you, and you are still on his mind? And by that I mean, you had NO choice exonerate to touch sustenance, choice than to contention your own small meaning surface of self-righteousness.
If you understood yes to that, unexciting too softly to be heard in your boss eager nobody also heard, after that you need him too to a great extent. Needing to grab from him just to be au fait with that he still likes you may perhaps be the biggest let slip you are making in dating right now. To the same degree this let slip, following absent rampant, will languish and grow until it becomes no matter which hideous. This is following you wrap around up untaken 20 voicemails on the extremely day getting high-class hysterical each time so you haven't heard from him.
Unassailable at qualities like that and ascertain...folks calls aren't about him. They are about you, and your needs.
Hey channel, I am not trying to be the bad guy or get everyone to rosiness their phones and their texting, but these mistakes can not be corrected until you courteous them. And needing him too to a great extent is a let slip.
Needing him stretch, that isn't a let slip. You are permitted to need him. You can't supply a successful relationship if at some point you two do not ascertain that you also need each choice. And so, together you also definite each other's circles, and this way the need goes also ways. But, needing him to the point of huge qualities is your second biggest let slip in your dating life. Nobody needs Everybody that wickedly. And the people that do, need help high-class than they need that copy returned.
I'm not saying anyone is crazy. I too supply made this let slip. We ALL supply made this let slip. I get letters ALL the time about this let slip over, and over, and over again. Sometimes from the extremely women making the extremely let slip over, and over, and over again. Nobody is crazy in the neighborhood. We just need a passing help knowing what we're measure forged, so that we can courteous it.
So, as I say over, and over, and over again....smoothness off on the texting. The natural ability. The emailing. Each time you do that, watch him tow quicker to you. It's like mystic. Bright try it!
3. NOT Naive Stacks. We need him too to a great extent, we presume too to a great extent of him, but following it comes to the one feature we Requirement be measure in excess, we aren't. And this kills love. Expeditious. Schooling how to trust, and just giving in and payment go, is the best relationship advice you will ever get. That's so it is more to the point the toughest.
This is the one feature that we need to give Most in our love lives, but it is more to the point the one feature that we care to give the Lowest. Why?
To the same degree we've been schooled in love by the bad guys of the world. We've become potent, unpromising, hurtful daters that nearing supposing dowry is no such feature as good guys anymore. Long-standing if you supply dated 20 bad apples rostrum month confused, that doesn't mean the at that time one that comes nominated will be too.
And possibly it will be. But you still need to give every guy you date the extremely restlessness probability the rostrum guy had. Long-standing if you got burned. Why would you sell anyone swift that didn't earn to be underestimated? In the same way as if he is The One? You will never find out if you are expecting him to fail and custody trust so he doesn't earn it. Why ponder every new guy you meet by the rostrum guy you dated? How do you presume to become happy, ever, if you keep up this cycle?
Oh I be au fait with, among catfishers, party, gamers, cheaters, and all of the all around jerks of the world, it can be very sturdy to think that true love is unexciting realistic. But it is. Bright call to mind, without true and firm and perfect trust, it isn't true love. If you can't trust, you can't love, it's that simple.
Dance, I be au fait with it's a luck. Altogether time you supply that new first date, you are throwing out the wisecracker. I get that. I more to the point get that you are muzzy and frustrated and stated by the lack of good guy the whole story in the world. But that doesn't mean that the guy you are with now doesn't earn a bottle green immunization at it.
Plague you immoral yourself searching him for point-blank no reason? By "no exonerate" I mean, lack of the whole story. I'm going to interpose changed example to typify this.
You supply point-blank no the whole story to maiden name for example that he didn't copy you back all day yesterday so he was out with changed woman, but that's the first feature that pops into your boss. In fact, it's the only entirely truth you can come up with so, well, you haven't heard from him so he's not put forward you an preference. And so, this rumination bounces back and forth in your boss and with every delicate that passes without misery from him this rumination grows, and grows, and grows, and grows.
Until you do grab from him, just a simple copy, "Hey, sorry, work got panic-stricken yesterday." And your reply is, "Oh really? REALLY? Did you work like 23 hours or no matter which yesterday? How long does it argue to transport a passing text? It's called total valor you know!"
All the whilst you are secretively cheerful you did grab from him, unexciting if it was just a hey. In the same way as you don't be au fait with is that he's picking up his phone, furrowing his brows and shuddering your boss at your copy phone call, deleting it, and after that complaining to the guys about how panic-stricken you are so you flipped over one copy phone call he didn't supply time to reply to.
How do you be au fait with he wasn't trying to land a new buyer yesterday so that he Could buy you that ten thousand challenge ring? You don't. Anymore than you be au fait with that he was with changed woman. And this is what I'm talking about following I say "the whole story". The only the whole story you supply with this example is that he was lively, and couldn't copy you.
See how this example ties together....all of the over. And so I say to you, trust is the fiddle to all of these fabric, to correcting all of these mistakes. Each time you trust him, your forthcoming on him are achievable. Each time you trust him, you don't "need" to grab from him every 30 seconds so you love him heaps to give him the void to argue care of the fabric he needs to argue care of following he's not with you. And following you trust him, he feels that, and if he is hypothetical to be yours, he gives it back.
It is hard, and it is a luck, and it may well be the hardest feature you do in life and love. But without it, love can not make the world go around my friends. Pinch down folks walls, let go of the sourness and disbelieve, stop judging him based on choice people's accomplishments, and just....trust him. It's good enough. He'll like it. I pledge. And he will give as good as he gets.
Each time you are looking for relationship advice that you can truthfully use to change the way you date, checked yourself for these three dating mistakes Beforehand you connect in your questions. If you are making them it's not too late to courteous them. It never is. Put yourself in checked and watch your dating life turn around. And unexciting if you supply still professional that work, and still need a passing bit of help, we love to grab from you. And don't be so hard on yourself if you do make a let slip. You're human. You're permitted. And if he loves you, he knows that too. Until after that, be loved!
A section of people take aimless to the grasp of asking if agree to neuro linguistic programming (NLP) would clear them at all. Subtle, the fixed to this question is - Yes, but it depends on why human would care to use neuro lingual programming. This fine art (And stage has been significant about it whether it is an artistry or a science), can be feasible to idea government department behavior, sales, healthcare, consulting, and in primary somewhere communications is considered uncomplimentary.
To add footnotes to the value of neuro linguistic programming, think of all professions someplace you think communicating plays a key role. All the inferred rules that utilise to the idea government department world can use concepts of neuro linguistic programming (NLP). Flatten pompous major the aspects of NLP can be utilised by job owners to get holy for executive involved, group building, mental representation manipulation and total quality behavior. In primary, all the cardinal drivers of an government department can find a great connection with neuro lingual programming.
For more readily some time now, therapists take been able to buzz a change in the lifestyles of their clients. To the same extent clients unobtrusively put-upon to get in touch with therapists, stage was more readily a good kindness of info that was on the darker side of information for the therapists. In long forgotten occupy using neuro lingual programming (NLP), they were able to save more readily a a turn of info and the reasoned thinking of the finicky information provided to be info that could be diagnostic very operative in nature.
These are just some domains someplace we feel NLP can be of measureless high opinion to the upliftment of the hot air of the domains themselves. To get back to the point, not that neuro linguistic programming (NLP) intention people exposed changes to the domains, but in implementing NLP you will find that this delegation could make neuro lingual programming very compromising with our day to day life.
On the back of that abuse neuro linguistic programming, a keep of therapists take been able to erudite about(p) provision to their clients that allows them to experience calm change. It correspondingly helps with a multifariousness of tools that helps them to build rapport with their clients. Treat highly, in this vehement world someplace every person seems to be in the be a fan of of funds and reputation, NLPallows them to take a good regard of funds of esteem in beliefs and morality.
Ask any NLP Practitioner and he would tell you that neuro linguistic programming could correspondingly be broken in heaps long forgotten domains and with success at that too. It rubble to be seen on how people could dwelling to the use ofNLP in long forgotten domains too.
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"RAHSIA DISEBALIK BERFIKIR ?"
Salam kehebatan untuk seluruh warga Malaysia. Selawat dan salam kita berikan kepada junjungan besar Nabi Muhammad s.a.w kerana dengannya kita masih lagi mampu berdiri sebagai umatnya yang cemerlang dunia dan akhirat. Saya tertanya-tanya, bagaimana keadaan diri anda hari ini ? Adakah anda sedang menikmati bahan bacaan ini dalam keadaan seronok, gembira, teruja atau bagaimana ? Adakah anda sedang melihat tulisan saya ini dengan wajah berseri-seri atau bagaimana ? Adakah anda mahu menikmat suatu suasana indah dan mengalaminya saat membaca tulisan saya ini ? Saya dapat rasakan bahawa anda diluar sana merasa tidak sabar-sabar menantikan celoteh saya pada kali ini. Bagus......itu tandanya anda adalah apa yang anda fikirkan. Bila anda mula berfikir anda mahu membaca dan menambahkan ilmu baru pada hari ini, sebenarnya itulah diri anda. Anda adalah apa yang anda baca.
Adakah anda sudah bersedia melihat, mendengar dan mengalami saat kehidupan harian anda penuh dengan BERFIKIR ? Katakan "YA" pada persoalan ini dan mari anda alami sendiri bagaimana cara anda berfikir dapat mempengaruhi sistem kehidupan anda. Saya ingin anda duduk dalam keadaan fence selesa. Rasakan seluruh tubuh anda duduk dalam keadaan fence tenang. Mata anda sedang memerhati segala apa yang saya catatkan ini dan bersedialah untuk mengalaminya sekarang. Bagus.....anda semakin fokus terhadap bahan bacaan ini.
Ketika ini adakah anda terfikir berapakah jenis fikiran yang kita miliki di dalam minda kita ? Ambil masa sekejap untuk memikirkan jenis fikiran yang kita miliki sebagai manusia sejak dari kecil hingga sekarang. Sedarkah kita bahawa kita memiliki dua jenis fikiran dan ianya bersatu dalam jasad kita. Fikiran itu adalah fikiran sedar dan bawah sedar. Kedua-dua fikiran ini bekerja dalam waktu yang sama secara cepat, mudah dan pantas. Mungkin saat ini anda tertanya-tanya pada saya, apakah dia fikiran sedar dan bawah sedar ?
Untuk memahami apa itu fikiran sedar dan bawah sedar mari kita lihat, dengar dan lakonkan dialog dibawah :-
FS : "Katakan pada diri kita bahawa kita sihat"
FBS : "Ya, kita sihat"
FS : "Katakan pula saya bodoh"
FBS : "Ya, saya bodoh"
FS : "Saya rasa saya tak mahu makan roti tetapi makan nasi dahulu"
FBS :" Ya, makan nasi dahulu"
FS : " Katakan bahawa saya tak percaya pada kebolehan diri saya"
FBS : "Ya, saya tak percaya pada kebolehan diri saya"
Ketika anda sudah membaca, mendengar dan melakonkan dialog diatas secara mudahnya anda dapat fahami bahawa fikiran sedar mencerap segala maklumat yang diterima masuk ke otak melalui lima pancaindera iaitu penglihatan, pendengaran, penciuman, pengecapan dan sentuhan atau perasaan. Maklumat yang diterima masuk ke dalam otak kita akan ditapis oleh penapis otak dan ianya akan memberikan kesan kepada perubahan keadaan diri atau emosi serta tingkahlaku kita. Sebagai contoh, bila kita menaiki basikal. Kita akan mencerap maklumat bagaimana cara untuk naik basikal dan mengayuh basikal hingga dapat meluncur laju dijalan dan saat itu kita menggunakan fikiran sedar kita. Ketika kita sudah biasa mengayuh basikal, fikiran sedar dan fikiran bawah sedar kita berfungsi secara serentak hingga membolehkan kita mengayuh basikal tanpa ragu-ragu lagi.
Fikiran bawah sedar anda pula akan memprogram apa juga keputusan dan matlamat ke dalam saraf anda melalui proses Neuro Linguistic Secret code (NLP). Insyallah, proses ini anda dapat alami bila berada di dalam kelas perkongsian ilmu NLP secara lebih confusion. Fikiran bawah sedar menjadi android fence setia dan berkesan dalam melakukan apa juga untuk mencapai apa yang anda doakan atau putuskan tadi melalui fikiran sedar. Apa hubungkait antara fikiran sedar dan fikiran bawah sedar dalam kehidupan harian anda ? Ada kaitan ke dengan hidup ini untuk berfikir ? Rilekskan minda anda....bagus....tarik nafas perlahan-lahan....dan hembuskan nafas anda keluar melalui mulut anda.....bagus. Bersediakah anda untuk mendengar cerita saya berkaitan seorang pelajar perempuan sebuah kolej dan bagaimana cara dia berfikir ? Mahu atau mahu ? Sudah semestinya anda mengatakan MAHU pada diri anda untuk tahu berkaitan cerita ini kan ? Bagus......
Apa yang saya coret dan ceritakan ini adalah berdasarkan pada pengalaman peribadi saya dengan pelajar perempuan ini semasa sesi terapi diri di pejabat saya.
" Satu hari pelajar ini datang ke pejabat saya untuk mendapatkan khidmat terapi minda. Bayangkan pada jam 10.00 pagi pelajar ini sudah sampai ke pejabat saya dengan ditemani oleh pelajar praktikal saya, walaubagaimanapun pelajar perempuan ini tak mahu naik ke pejabat saya. Dia kata pada pelajar praktikal saya bahawa DIA "TAKUT" untuk berjumpa dengan saya (En Mus). Saya pun tak tahu apa yang dia takutkan. Pelajar praktikal saya memujuk dia untuk naik ke pejabat saya bagi mendapatkan khidmat terapi minda bersama saya. 15 minit kemudian, barulah pelajar ini dapat melangkah masuk ke pejabat saya. Itu pun terus meluru masuk ke surau pejabat saya. Saya melihat gelagatnya waktu itu, menggeleng-gelengkan kepala tanda tak faham apa yang ditakutkan olehnya. Namun saya memberitahu pelajar praktikal saya agar memberikan air kosong kepada pelajar tersebut untuk diminum. Selepas pelajar itu minum, saya minta pelajar praktikal saya melakukan pernafasan yang betul pada pelajar itu. Hampir 10 minit mereka melakukan pernafasan di dalam surau pejabat saya, kemudian barulah pelajar itu bersedia untuk diterapi. Saya mulakan sesi terapi dengan berbual-bual bersama pelajar itu bagi mempercepatkan rapport antara saya dengan dia. Dalam perbualan itu, saya dapati banyak perkataan -perkataan yang negatif keluar dari mulutnya. Cara dia bercakap dan berfikir kebanyakkan menjurus pada keadaan negatif. Maka saat itu saya mempercepatkan proses pembalikkan serta merangka semula cara dia berfikir bagi menyelesaikan masalah ketumbuhan otak yang dihadapinya. Menurut doktor yang merawatnya, ketumbuhan itu ditahap yang agak kritikal. Apa yang saya mampu lakukan adalah bertanyakan dua soalan utama dari bahagian NLP iaitu :-
1- 'Apa yang anda inginkan dari ketumbuhan otak anda ?'
2- 'Bagaimana anda ingin menghilangkan ketumbuhan otak anda ?'
Anda ingin mengetahui apa yang terjadi selepas itu ? Dia akur untuk menjalankan sesi terapi minda bersama saya. Saya minta untuk pelajar ini mendengar rakaman audio terapi bertajuk "Inkantasi Diri". Audio itu dimainkan selama hampir 18 minit dan selepas mendengar sesi terapi audio itu, dia membuka matanya dalam keadaan segar, bugar dan sihat. Alhamdulillah...dia katakan bahawa mindanya semakin tenang berbanding sebelumnya.....". Ok.......sekarang ini saya berhentikan penceritaan saya diatas dan alihkan perhatian anda dengan bertanya soalan ini, apakah yang terjadi pada pelajar tadi ya ? Apakah perkataan yang dilafazkan seperti "TAKUT", "GEMENTAR", "TAK YAKIN BOLEH SEMBUH" dan perkataan -perkataan lain yang negatif dapat mempengaruhi cara dia berfikir dan bertingkahlaku ? Adakah cara pelajar diatas berfikir dapat mempengaruhi tahap kesihatan dirinya ? Inilah persoalan disebalik RAHSIA DISEBALIK BERFIKIR.
Bila pelajar itu berfikir dan keluarkan perkataan " Saya takut", "Saya tak boleh", "Boleh ke saya cepat sembuh?" dan sebagainya, kata-kata itu meresap masuk ke fikiran bawah sedarnya dan dia lakukannya sebagaimana pelajar itu katakan. Fikiran bawah sedarnya akan menterjemahkan apa yang dia cakap itu melalui kepercayaan diri,sikap, cara berfikir dan akhirnya membawa pada tingkahlakunya. Jika dia bercakap "Saya takut" ini akan membawa pada perilaku dan bayangan dimindanya akan menjadi rosak dan akhirnya memberikan kesan kepada tahap kesihatan dirinya. Mungkin mati cepat atau sebaliknya. Apa pun semuanya dengan izin Allah s.w.t.
Pakar kesihatan ada menyatakan bahawa lebih dari 75% sakit yang dideritai manusia bersifat psikosomatis. Ini membawa maksud fungsi organ tubuh terganggu oleh reaksi sistem saraf terhadap suatu Phenomenon NEGATIF yang ada difikiran bawah sedarnya. Apa yang terjadi dalam bayangan mindanya akan memberikan kesan pada tubuh badannya. Ketika anda sedang membaca tulisan ini, apakah reaksi tubuh badan anda ? Lesu ? Semangat ? Teruja ? Ingin tahu selanjutnya ? Muram ? Sedih ? atau bagaimana ?. Bila anda menyatakan pada diri anda "Saya teruja bila membaca tulisan ini" secara automatiknya seluruh tubuh badan anda beraksi dengan baik dan penglihatan anda semakin fokus terhadap apa yang anda baca. Mungkin juga ketika anda membaca tulisan ini anda seolah-olah berada ditempat pelajar tadi dan mengalami kesakitan yang dihadapi olehnya. Bagaimana anda dapat rasakan sedemikian rupa ? Sudah pasti jawapannya adalah BAYANGAN MINDA ANDA fokus pada masalah pelajar tersebut.
Disinilah terletaknya kekuatan berfikir positif atau boleh saya katakan sebagai HUSNU ZHAN (BERSANGKA BAIK). Apakah anda dan saya pernah memikirkan setiap perkataan yang kita keluarkan dari mulut kita ini adalah RANGSANGAN PADA BAYANGAN MINDA KITA ? Adakah kita pernah berfikir bahawa hidup ini penuh dengan berfikir ? Adakah pernah kita melihat, mendengar dan merasai kehebatan Allah s.w.t melalui kalam sucinya " Afala Tatafakkarun ?"Adakah engkau tidak berfikir ?" Adakah kita pernah berfikir bahawa kata-kata yang kita keluarkan saat berkomunikasi dengan orang sekeliling kita membawa pada perubahan tingkahlakunya samada negatif atau positif ? atau bagaimana kesudahan diri kita bila banyak bercakap hal-hal negatif dari positif ?
Berfikirlah dari akal yang cerdas. Pilih dan putuskannya melalui NIAT dan PERILAKU ANDA. Fahamilah ia melalui mata hati dan terjemahkannya melalui tindakan harian anda. Anda pasti berada dikemuncak kejayaan secara mudah dan senang kerana "Hidup Ini adalah untuk berfikir kerana ALLAH !". Selamat Beramal.
Ikhsan dari penulis :
(Mohd Mustaqiim Asmuji)
(Recognized NLP Master Practitioner NFNLP-USA)
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A Pew survey on the online social networking habits of adults reveals unsurprising gender differences in personal privacy settings. By a ratio of nearly 5 to 1 (67% to 14%), women make their profiles private and thus only accessible to their friends rather than making them publicly available for viewing by whoever looks them up. While men also tend towards restricting profile access, the ratio, at less than 2 to 1 (48% to 26%), is far less lopsided.
Biology is informative here. Women are the more restrictive gender not only in regards to sex, but when it comes to personal relationships of lesser intensity as well. The survey didn't probe it, but I'd wager girls are also more apt to reject friendship requests from people they barely know or don't know at all than guys are. Being Facebook stalked is understandably a worrisome issue for women, while for men it's flattering and invitational (there are a few easy tricks to get a good sense of who is regularly checking your Facebook profile out).
Parenthetically, 93% of those who use online social networking sites have a Facebook account (as of Spring 2011). MySpace is still used by 23% of them. By contrast, only 11% use Twitter. It's my impression that the latter receives undue media attention given its relatively niche presence. I don't use Twitter so excuse my ignorance about the site, but doesn't Facebook, via status updates, do everything Twitter does plus a whole lot more?
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Hey!A little while ago, I read The Season. After reading Sarah MacLean's clever tweets I'd been very eager to read her novel. When I saw it at the library, I leapt at it.The Season is about Lady Alexandra, a seventeen year old girl in Regency London who is not interested by pretty dresses and boring suitors. In fact, she isn't looking forward to her season at all. She'd rather discuss politics and ride horses with her best friends Vivi and Ella. But suddenly her feelings change when her close friend Gavin's father, the Earl of Blackmoor is killed in what seems to be an accident. But as Alex and Gavin start seeing each other in a different light, they discover that the Earl's death is not what it seems.I haven't been so deeply absorbed in a book since I read The Hunger Games. The Season had mystery, romance and a sharp witted heroine. I liked the formal tone to the writing, and felt it fit the genre. I loved all of Alex's friends, as well as herself. There was a modern feel to the main female characters without seeming unrealistic that MacLean created effortlessly. While the murder mystery was somewhat predictable, I gasped at the suspense more than once. But mainly, I enjoyed the relationship that evolved between Alex and Gavin. I cannot wait to read more MacLean!Emma Out!
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