5 Reasons You Arent In A Relationship Right Now

Your 5 Biggest Challenges

to Finding Love

YOU ARE NOT PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE. Many of you tried online dating for a few months, went to a few meet-ups or went out on a few dates. It did not go the way hoped or you had a "bad experience" so you gave up or became really discouraged. You also dont have a plan- a system for meeting Mr. Right.

THE MEN YOU LIKED WERENT INTERESTED IN YOU. When you meet someone you like it is easy to become nervous. You either shut down and act disinterested or you try too hard and become the pursuer. And you take it personally when someone you are interested in does not reciprocate your feelings.

NOT REALLY KNOWING WHAT YOU REQUIRE. If you feel that you would never date a man from your gym or you would never date a man without a college degree or you must date a man who loves sports, you end up place limitations on someone who would otherwise be very compatible. You dont know what characteristics you actually need for in a long term partner.

MAKING SNAP JUDGMENTS ABOUT SOMEONE. Many of you decide after one date he is just not right for you, or you feel you are not attracted to him because he says something that you dont like. Or maybe he is a little awkward or too eager and it turns you off so you blow him off.

NOT WANTING TO TAKE THE TIME TO DATE. Date can be a four letter word and it can seem discouraging going out with different men who you are not interested in. Finding a relationship with someone can take time and commitment. You are not putting in the time to date and improve your dating skills to help you find someone you really like.

Dating is actually a lot like shopping!

Imagine you are shopping for a cocktail dress for a special event. If you want a regular black dress and you dont care what it looks like or how it fits, you can run to the closest large department store and grab the next black dress on the rack.

But if you want a dress that fits you fabulously, shows off your best features, and has a special flare that reflects your personal style you may have to shop around a little.

You probably will have to go to more than one store, try on few dresses. Even research what boutiques in the area have the type of clothing that you are looking for.

YOU MAY BE STUCK IN BAD HABITS OR HAVE LIMITING BELIEFS about shopping.

If you wait until the last minute, you may not find the dress you like right away. Do you start to feel anxious? Do you worry that you may never find a dress that is right for you in time for the big event?

Macys may be the only place you have ever shopped and you are not even aware there are other stores out there that carry dresses you would love.

You may think there are no fashionable dresses at your mall and you are afraid to get creative about where to shop.

You may be in your comfort zone, always wearing the same style, afraid to try a different design, even though it may look fabulous on you.

AND after just one day of shopping you might just give up. If you had only known that the dress of your dreams was there waiting for you at the next store, wouldnt you have continued shopping and not given up.

Do you get my point?

If you want to be in a relationship, you need to commit to making dating a priority.

And you need to be resourceful about how you date and find the best way to meet men that works for you.

But most importantly, you must not give up.

Achieving your ideal relationship is a marathon, not a sprint.

So make that commitment to date for relationship!

Participate in activities and interests where you can meet new people.

Have friends who are happily married or in a loving relationship? Ask them to introduce you to their single friends.

Take that vacation or go on that trip.

Whatever you do - dont give up.

And dont be afraid to ask for help. Because when you try to shop alone you know you cant always see yourself as clearly as someone else can. Someone who can see all the angles!